One of the hardest moments to be kind to someone is the moment right after they've unintentionally hurts you. You want to retaliate. You know this because your deepest regrets are times when you’ve let your own pain become an excuse to hurt others.
Instead, in those moments, you can choose to be kind. You can open the door to this person so that all that they are--good, bad, ugly--can flow through you, and later, be accepted by you. And ultimately, can be loved without condition by you.
Kindness is the open door which leaves you broken, less cut off from each other. No one can come meet you at your heart’s dining table if you don’t open that door.Â
This is how to feel the gift of connecting to another human being.
This is how you know that, deep down, you’re capable of kindness.
And maybe that’s not so unsexy after all...
