Friends,best friends, boy friends by Krishna4u 2014/06/15 03:37
Being in a relationship
does not mean that you
will no longer find other
people attractive. But
what happens when the
person you happen to find
attractive is your
boyfriend's best friend?
This is actually a very
common thing that
happens to a lot of people.
Many women find their
boyfriend's best or very
close friend attractive not
due to their looks, but
because the time they
spend with them. As your
boyfriend's girlfriend, you
will naturally be
introduced to his friends
and get to know them. It
is common to discover
that you and your
boyfriend's good friend
have a lot in common as
well and the more time
you spend together, the
more attractive he
becomes to you. If he
were just another guy you
passed by on the street,
you may have noticed his
good looks, but you have
not have thought him
twice after that. Your
boyfriend's friend
however, is someone you
see more of and interact
with socially.
What happens if your
boyfriend's good friend
also finds you attractive
and in time you realize
that you two are flirting
with each other? Is it
something deeper than it
appears on the surface?
Are you two falling for
each other? While this is
always possible, majority
of the times it has nothing
to do with actual love.
Usually a man's girlfriend
and his good friend will
find themselves drawn to
each other because of the
circumstances. Something
about the sinful
circumstance makes it
very exciting and usually it
does not mean more than
this. You are not bad for
finding your boyfriend's
friend attractive, but it is
best to just leave it at that
and not play with fire.
After all, how would you
feel if things were the
other way around where
your boyfriend and your
good friend felt sexually/
romantically drawn to
each other?
The best you can do if you
find yourself in this
situation is to avoid
spending time alone with
your boyfriend's friend
this way you will not set
yourself up to make a
mistake you will most
likely deeply regret later.
You are obviously with
your boyfriend in the first
place because you care
about him and want to be
with him, so do not play
head games with yourself
and gamble your
relationship for a silly
temptation. We all have
urges that we sometimes
want to give in to, but it
does not mean we do it.
You have to think about
what is best for you and
your relationship, if you
truly cherish your
relationship. If your
boyfriend's friend get
aggressive and tried
making a move on you or
tried talking you into
messing around, then be
the one with the better
head on your shoulders.
Tell him that you think
he's great and you are
happy that you were able
to make a new friend, but
that is all you want to be-
friends. Make it clear that
you love your boyfriend
and let him see that
whenever you all happen
to be together hanging
out.
What if I end up having
serious feelings for his
Friend?
If you discover that the
feelings between you and
your boyfriend's friend are
serious and it is indeed
love, then you have a
complicated situation on
your hands. You should
not stay with your
boyfriend out of guilt, as it
is not fair to you or him.
However, you should not
just break up with him
and then jump into a
relationship with his close
friend either. The best
thing you can do in a
situation like this is to
break up with your
boyfriend and let him
know that you feel like
you two have grown apart
and you feel you are at a
place where you still have
some exploring to do. Tell
him that he has not done
anything wrong and this is
about you and your
personal feelings and
journey. Then take some
time apart from each
other and tell his friend to keep things quiet and not tell him anything yet. After a good amount of time goes by, you and his friend can then start seeing each other and come out in the open about your relationship. When asked, tell your boyfriend (or now ex-boyfriend at this point) that during your relationship, you and his friend also became good friends and over time discovered that you had a lot in common and are interested in each other now. Tell him that there was nothing going on when you two were together and nothing serious is going on now, but you two just want to spend some together and see what happens. He will be hurt, but in time he will most likely get over it and move to someone else too. It is also a possibility that he may stay bitter for a very long time about this and not want to talk to either of you, so you two are going to have to decide whether all this is truly worth it.
Being in a relationship
does not mean that you
will no longer find other
people attractive. But
what happens when the
person you happen to find
attractive is your
boyfriend's best friend?
This is actually a very
common thing that
happens to a lot of people.
Many women find their
boyfriend's best or very
close friend attractive not
due to their looks, but
because the time they
spend with them. As your
boyfriend's girlfriend, you
will naturally be
introduced to his friends
and get to know them. It
is common to discover
that you and your
boyfriend's good friend
have a lot in common as
well and the more time
you spend together, the
more attractive he
becomes to you. If he
were just another guy you
passed by on the street,
you may have noticed his
good looks, but you have
not have thought him
twice after that. Your
boyfriend's friend
however, is someone you
see more of and interact
with socially.
What happens if your
boyfriend's good friend
also finds you attractive
and in time you realize
that you two are flirting
with each other? Is it
something deeper than it
appears on the surface?
Are you two falling for
each other? While this is
always possible, majority
of the times it has nothing
to do with actual love.
Usually a man's girlfriend
and his good friend will
find themselves drawn to
each other because of the
circumstances. Something
about the sinful
circumstance makes it
very exciting and usually it
does not mean more than
this. You are not bad for
finding your boyfriend's
friend attractive, but it is
best to just leave it at that
and not play with fire.
After all, how would you
feel if things were the
other way around where
your boyfriend and your
good friend felt sexually/
romantically drawn to
each other?
The best you can do if you
find yourself in this
situation is to avoid
spending time alone with
your boyfriend's friend
this way you will not set
yourself up to make a
mistake you will most
likely deeply regret later.
You are obviously with
your boyfriend in the first
place because you care
about him and want to be
with him, so do not play
head games with yourself
and gamble your
relationship for a silly
temptation. We all have
urges that we sometimes
want to give in to, but it
does not mean we do it.
You have to think about
what is best for you and
your relationship, if you
truly cherish your
relationship. If your
boyfriend's friend get
aggressive and tried
making a move on you or
tried talking you into
messing around, then be
the one with the better
head on your shoulders.
Tell him that you think
he's great and you are
happy that you were able
to make a new friend, but
that is all you want to be-
friends. Make it clear that
you love your boyfriend
and let him see that
whenever you all happen
to be together hanging
out.
What if I end up having
serious feelings for his
Friend?
If you discover that the
feelings between you and
your boyfriend's friend are
serious and it is indeed
love, then you have a
complicated situation on
your hands. You should
not stay with your
boyfriend out of guilt, as it
is not fair to you or him.
However, you should not
just break up with him
and then jump into a
relationship with his close
friend either. The best
thing you can do in a
situation like this is to
break up with your
boyfriend and let him
know that you feel like
you two have grown apart
and you feel you are at a
place where you still have
some exploring to do. Tell
him that he has not done
anything wrong and this is
about you and your
personal feelings and
journey. Then take some
time apart from each
other and tell his friend to keep things quiet and not tell him anything yet. After a good amount of time goes by, you and his friend can then start seeing each other and come out in the open about your relationship. When asked, tell your boyfriend (or now ex-boyfriend at this point) that during your relationship, you and his friend also became good friends and over time discovered that you had a lot in common and are interested in each other now. Tell him that there was nothing going on when you two were together and nothing serious is going on now, but you two just want to spend some together and see what happens. He will be hurt, but in time he will most likely get over it and move to someone else too. It is also a possibility that he may stay bitter for a very long time about this and not want to talk to either of you, so you two are going to have to decide whether all this is truly worth it.
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